I'm A Silly Mami: Are Stay-at-Home Moms Lazy?   

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Are Stay-at-Home Moms Lazy?

I was watching Anderson Cooper today and it was about Stay At Home Moms vs. Working Moms. I missed the first 15 minutes which I guess was the part where two of the working moms were saying that being a SAHM is LAZY!  I caught the end of that part and let’s just say I was in “Oh hell no” mode. Those two bi-atches were lucky I wasn’t sitting in the audience cuz I would have shanked their ass if I caught up to them – the nerve of them! The SAHM’s are on the Left and the working bitches on the right.

Source: Anderson Cooper

Being a SAHM is a blessing for me. It’s a tough-as-shit job. I’m thankful and grateful that my husband works hard so that I am able to stay home with our daughter. I’ve blogged about this before. You can read about my little rant here. Staying home with your child is not for everyone. I can totally see why many moms decide to go back to work – you get to take breaks during the day, you can run errands without a little one pulling a nutty the minute you arrive at the store, you get to EAT LUNCH in peace, your not dealing with a screaming, whiny child all day, yea I get it. I’m sure there are some days where you are doing jack shit all day at work and then come home and spend 2-3 hours with your kid(s) while making dinner, bathing, doing homework and then it’s bedtime and that may be enough for you. We have friends that have 3 year old twins and the father just told my husband that “this age sucks”. I was not surprised by that because he is the same jack ass that used to tell hubby that he couldn’t wait for Mondays to come around so he could go back to work when his kids were younger. See, now that shit really pissed me off because they went through IVF to have these kids. They are in their early 30’s and for them the kids are just part of the package –kids make it complete.They have their big house and just bought an even bigger one just because, their nice salaries and just basically doing what they can to keep up with the Joneses.  I hate when I hear people say shit like that because for some of us it took years to have our children, for us they are a blessing, for us it doesn’t matter that they are screaming bloody murder and being whiny and all that shit. For us, we welcome it – well sometimes anyway.

So while you may call us Lazy because we choose to stay home with our kids we can certainly turn that around and call you Selfish! Selfish for putting your careers first before your children, selfish for wanting to climb that ladder to matter the price. You are the same women who take your kids to the playground and are too busy tweeting, texting, emailing, etc to even look up and see the happy smiles on their faces as they are sliding down the slide, or missed them doing some thing funny and what do you say when they ask “mommy did you see that”? So many precious moments missed.  Every time Buggy does something silly she looks at us with a huge smile or a laugh as if asking what did you think or with a wasn’t that funny look. Yes Buggy-Boo it was hilarious because you’re a silly little nut and we just fall on the floor and laugh some more. I love those silly moments even if we have to do it about 10 times.

I want to be able to give my daughter everything I can so I will be going back to work soon. I would love to be able to work from home if possible but I know that these are precious moments, important milestones that I was able to experience with my daughter. I don’t know if I will have that chance again.

I am proud to to a Stay At Home Mom!

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20 comments:

  1. Wow...there's alot of 4 letter words in that post. You sound like me, on a good day :) I am a working mom, and let me tell you, I give all the credit in the world to SAHMs. I could NEVER do it. I went back to work 4 weeks after having my baby girl. I lost my mind being home after 2 days actually. There are pros and cons to both situations. Following you from Vb!

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  2. Oh SNAP! Great post! Well, I actually think that moms that say such degrading things about stay at home moms probably do so to alleviate some deep seeded guilt about not being there - which is sad. I have been both, I am lucky to work from home now and I see that as the absolute best of both worlds! But working in ways was easier! But I feel my kids deserve to have the best care and I feel that I am the best to provide that for them. Am I lazy some days, yep...but I was at work too! But most days being at home means having about a million things staring you down that you need to do but don't have the time to do, NEVER leaving your workplace, no outside interaction, less kudos for what you do, no breaks in the monotony...but I love it. It is a personal choice...if you even have a choice. Some people couldn't afford the childcare to work outside the home, some moms have to work to make ends meet. So while it is a "choice" I think it is usually a choice for what is based on the whole family not just what the mom prefers. Those women were suck jerks and it boggles my mind when moms don't support each other, argh!

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  3. I'm a working mom myself and couldn't agree with you more. I can't imagine staying at home with the kids. I'm sweating in the mornings by the time I get them to daycare. Much respect to all SAHM's.

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  4. This is just sad. We all make choices I can't speak for working Mom's while I would not choose to go out and work and don't necessarily understand why they would choose work over staying home I can at least respect that, that is what they have chosen. For my husband and I we decided that if we were going to have children we were going to raise them not grandma, or a nanny, or daycare. We have 6 kiddos on one income and my husband works in a factory so we aren't rolling in it. We make sacrifices and it isn't always easy, but I agree with you that I would not trade it. I wouldn't say we are shirking responsibility either if anything we are taking care of the children we brought into this world and lazy.....

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  5. Ugh! I've been both. I will say in my experience, being a SAHM is far more work and much more exhausting than any other full time job I've held in the past. It's also far more rewarding.

    Blessings,
    ~Rosann

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  6. I think it is extremely sad that in the year 2012 we are still letting ourselves be used in this way. I feel that when the media exploits our feeling as mothers and pits us against each other to further ratings it keeps us from working together to deal with the real problems of our day. Education, health care, equality in the workplace all get put aside in the "I'm a better mother than you.' I am a SAHM by choice and very happy about it. It is not for everyone, for many it's just not a financial option. I do not put women down who work for whatever reason they do so, and I have to say I just don't buy into anything that says I'm less than because I don't collect a salary. I hate when shows exploit us this way! Thanks for opening up a great exchange!

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  7. I have the best of both worlds. I am a combo of SAHM and working mom. I get to do all the tedious crappity crap and wonderful stuff too. I didn't miss one single first, but I still get out of the house on Friday, Saturday and Sunday and work. I LOVE work because it's where I do what I do best and I do it with other adults. No one whining and fussing, but I love being home all week too. My jobs affords me that thankfully so I Miss nothing. Are SAHM's lazy? When they are little, no. Once they are all in school and the day is free, there's only so much wash and cleaning and stuff to do. It's like having your life back for a few hours. I get both sides.

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  8. Oh Snap!! Is right!! LOL!! What a great post!! I have been both a working mom and a SAHM... Love the money when I worked...but I love my kids even more! Not saying that you do not love your kids is you are working... in my case, my boys are 24 and 20 and I missed them growing up.. now with my 5 y/o little Calley I'm at home for now, with my husband working his butt off and barely making bills... I still would not change a thing. Why does the media have to go there.. just to see a cat fight? Wished I would have seen the show. Great post!!! I could not have said it better!

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  9. OK I am not even going to use the four letter words I was going to use to describe the ladies on the couch. I promised myself I would curb the cussing but I would love for these ladies to step into any SAHM shoes and not want to blow their brains out by the end of the day which for me is 8:00 pm when the little one has finally crashed out. I hate this image of Peg Bundy SAHM sitting on the coach eating bon bons mom that SOME working moms and dad have. This shit is hard and you never ever get a break EVER. I do not appreciate people who have kids just because they need to have kids. Have a kid because you want one. Remember you only get to see their first walk, talk, and smile once. Great post. Now I need to walk around the block to cal myself down...lol

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  10. Hope you had a good walk-LOL! I totally agree with you. Those ladies need a reality bitch slap!

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  11. Thanks Carla,

    It is pretty sad that women have to attack each other. You can bet that SAHD wouldn't say that to each other. I do miss my paycheck but that could never replace the memories I have since I've been home with Buggy. 

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  12. That is awesome that you have the best of both worlds. It's certainly a good balance and the adult convo's totally keep you sane! Thanks for stopping by.

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  13. I totally agree with you Kathy. I too stay home by choice and don't judge anyone because they do or they don't. It was total lack of disrespect of them to judge and say what they did. Thanks for stopping by!

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  14. I totally agree. I'm totally wiped by the end of the night. Thanks for stopping by.

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  15. I totally agree Cheryl. I chose to be a mom and we prepared so that I could stay home with our daughter. Is it tough going from two paychecks to one, yes but you make sacrifices. I want to raise my daughter not the daycare system. Thanks for stopping by

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  16. It certainly isn't easy at times and I only have one! Thanks for stopping by.

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  17. It is definitely a choice and those women should have respected that. You are lucky you can work from home. I hope to one day-I would love that. Staying home is exhausting but I am loving every moment with her. Thanks for stopping by!

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  18. hey Leslie,

    I could totally see how sometimes you can get stir crazy but I know if I was at work I'd be miserable because I couldn't be with her. Thanks for stopping by. 

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  19. I have been a SAHM, a working mom and a working from home mom. I'm all three right now and my days at home are the hardest. It's not so much the physical effort required (chasing toddlers, cleaning, cleaning and cleaning), but the emotional. Dealing with whining, crying, fit after fit, breaking up fights, taking advantage of "teaching" moments... it is exhausting. 
    I long for the day when all parents acknowledge the unique efforts we all put into our children, family, job and homes and accept and support one another.  

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  20. Well Said! I don't understand why women turn on each other like that. We all go through the same and we should support each other. 

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