Buggy has been taking ballet and soccer for the last few months. A schoolmate of hers also takes ballet and the girls have occasional play dates. While the girls are in ballet the mom tells me that her son no longer wants to play soccer and with only about 3 games left they stopped bringing him. I asked the mom if they asked him why he no longer wants to play but he didn’t give a specific reason. He’s only four so they didn’t think it was a big deal.
I know the child is only four but I’m wondering what is the lesson we are teaching our children, that it’s ok to quit just because something seems tougher than you thought, that playing soccer isn’t as fun because you really have to work at it.
After we left ballet I kept wondering what I would do if Buggy suddenly said she no longer wanted to do ballet. I think I would definitely try and find out why the sudden dislike and if she were having issues. It could be something as simple as my ballet shoes hurt and we know how three year olds can totally make a bigger issue out of something like that. But I would also like to think that if this was something she really wanted (and we have to pay for) I would really want her to follow through and finish what she started. Again, we are talking about a three year old and each situation is different but if not now, when do we teach our children you should “finish what you start”?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject.