I used to hear those words a lot growing up even from my own mom and I just don’t get them. I’ve heard them at the store and many other places as well when the kids are crying and the stressed out moms are telling them to be quiet. The other night as Buggy finished her bath she was all whiny and crying. I knew she was tired but this whiny thing is sort of a ritual with her these days. I try to make her laugh to distract her so we laugh a bit and then we cry and this goes on while I’m putting her pajama’s on. When she’s crying I would ask her why she was crying, trying to figure out what was going on but I knew they weren’t real cries but at that moment I remembered those words I’ve heard so many times “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about”.
What that means to me is that you want your child to stop crying but you are going to spank, hit, slap, punish –whatever term you want to use – to make them stop. Wouldn’t that just make the child cry even more, oh but now they have a reason to cry, ok duh, I get it. Umm, no, not really but obviously there must have been a reason before if they were crying to begin with.
As I thought of those words I just looked at my daughter and could never imagine hitting her or punishing her to make her stop crying. The thought of that happening made me sad. I thought of when my mom had said it to me and how it made me feel and I hugged Buggy and kissed her even more. Perhaps some moms say it just to make the kids stop crying although I have seen some actually follow through and my heart just goes out to the child.
I can’t say that I have seen anything like this recently. Maybe it was more the older generation. Tell me though, are these words that you have heard from your parents when you were younger?