I'm A Silly Mami: Almost Two And Still Breastfeeding   

Friday, November 11, 2011

Almost Two And Still Breastfeeding

There is always so much controversy over this and I get a good amount of it from my family. My daughter is going to be two years old next month. Hard to believe. Where has the time gone. Breastfeeding is such a huge issue for some people and frankly I just don’t understand it.

Two weeks ago I was at my sister’s house for my nephews birthday and needed to nurse my daughter. We were just hanging out in the kitchen – kids were playing in another room – so I started nursing my daughter and wouldn’t you know it my younger sister who has two kids of her own, became really uncomfortable while I was nursing my kid. This is the same sister that was in the delivery room while I gave birth, the same sister that was holding my leg and cheering me on to push, the same sister that saw me push my almost 9lb baby out of my va-jay-jay.

I don’t know how that makes sense. We are family. She’s ok seeing me give birth but not breastfeed- seriously? She even grabbed a towel for me to cover up. First of all when I am nursing I do not whip out my boob and show everyone my nipples like the town flasher. I cover myself as much as possible but for the love of G*d my boob is in my baby’s mouth, how much do you really see? I have no problem nursing my child in public and I did not get up to go to another room. I told her if she felt uncomfortable she can go somewhere else. It was rather comical because she got up and kept walking around the kitchen trying not to look at me. She mentioned how her friend nurses her baby in front of her and its hard for her not to stare. I say stare away. It’s a beautiful thing. I love the special bonding I have with my baby girl when we nurse. It is a special time for us and I will be sad when it is over.

My older sister of course needed to add her two cents where she shouldn’t but of course that is what she does best. Here are my two sisters judging me about still breastfeeding my daughter at this age yet she thinks nothing of her four year old still using a pacifier. if that were my daughter she would be criticizing me for doing it. I was really angry at both of them. I told them they should be applauding me for still being able to nurse at this age but this isn’t anything new – I’ve heard it before.

My husband is also a bit uncomfortable with me still nursing our daughter. He always jokes about her being in high school and me still nursing. I’ve come to the point where I just ignore him and Buggy does the same. When he sees that she wants to nurse he tells her no ba-ba. Generally she cries and then he tells her she can have it - as if I was gonna hold back - but she is smarter now. When daddy is home and she wants to nurse she will take my hand and bring me upstairs to her room. We sit in the rocker and we can both nurse in peace - LOL! I don’t care what he or any one else thinks. You know what, these are my boobs and if I want to continue to breastfeed my child I will do it. If you are uncomfortable then turn your ass around and get out of my face!

To be honest, I never intended to breastfeed for this long. She weaned herself off the bottle at 8 months and I was hoping she would do the same with the boobie but she loves her ba-ba. She sometimes walks around saying ba-ba and doing the sign for it, almost as if rubbing it in daddy's face-lol! The cutoff was about a year and a half but Buggy has not shown any interest in stopping so I keep telling myself I’ll give it til she’s two. So we’ll see what happens-maybe two-ish –LOL!
To all you Mama’s out there still breastfeeding, we applaud you!

19 comments:

  1. Good for you!  Breast feeding is hard (harder than I ever imagined) and I have a HUGE amount of respect for anyone who can stick with it for the first year, let alone 2 years!  We had latch issues and after working with several lactation consultants, I resigned myself to exclusively pumping.  I made it 6 months, but it was very time consuming and I eventually quit.  I'm glad she got breastmilk for 6 months though.  

    If it feels like the right thing to do for you and your family - stick with it.  It is a very personal decision.  Congrats on hitting this milestone!

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  2. Stumbled your post!
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  3. I think that there are a lot of cultural issues with breastfeeding--in some societies, women breastfeed longer and in others women breastfeed shorter.  But, you are right, the decision should be made by you and your child..Only the two of you know what is best. :)  By the way, I stumbled your post!

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  4. Thanks Jennifer,

    6 months is great! congrats! Every bit helps. 

    Thank you so much!  It certainly isn't easy. I had latch issues to and had to use a nipple shield four about 5-6 months then I was fine. Thanks for stopping by.

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  5. Thanks Kristen! Its' a great experience and I've been lucky to be able to do it this long. Thanks for the Stumble. I'll stumble yours as well. 

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  6. stopping by from the stumbleupon blog hop from MBS!!! 

    Africa's Blog
    http://africa18.wordpress.com/2011/11/11/unexpected/

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  7. The breastfeeding controversy works two ways. No one has ANY right to tell you not to do it or to cover up. They need to respect your decision about it and look the other way if they don't like it. However, no one is "right" here, and you don't have any more right to rub it in their faces than they have to tell you to quit. You know your sister is uncomfortable with it. Let it go and do your best not to bother her with it. One cannot demand respect for their actions without respecting the emotions of other people. SOmetimes, it doesn't just come down to "awareness" or knowing that, in some people's opinions, it's natural and better for baby. Some people, even if they know these things or feel the same way, will still be grossed out by it. That isn't something you can LEARN out of someone. Great topic. 

    I'm here from the mbs stumble hop. I'm stumbling your post now, and I'd love a stumble back!

    Brae
    http://www.becauseidontscrapbook.blogspot.com

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  8. Good for you for still breastfeeding! I wasn't able to BF as long as I was hoping, and it's something I miss - the bonding. As a woman and Mother, it's your decision and I agree - if people are uncomfortable then let THEM go somewhere else. BF is one of the most natural things on the planet, and it is beautiful. :)

    I also would love to pass on the Liebster Blog Award. I hope you accept! Read about it here... http://pamelazimmer.wordpress.com/2011/11/13/feeling-the-love-another-liebster-blog-award/

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  9. Pinkim (kim wright)November 13, 2011 at 9:36 PM

    Hello, thanks for stopping by and stumbling my post...I stumbled yours right back! Good for you sticking to your guns!!

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  10. I have stumbled this post.  Here is my link: http://www.messforless.net/2011/11/thrifty-thursday-how-to-shop-for.html

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  11. Thanks for the stopping by and for the Stumble!

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  12. Hi Brae,

    Weird part is that I had no idea my sister was uncomfortable with it until that day. I don't see them much but it wasn't the first time I nursed in front of her and she never mentioned it. I usually ask people if they are ok with me nursing. she should have mentioned it before freaking out. I am usually very respectful when I nurse in public until I get attacked. I cover up or go into another room or in the car if i have to - but if your going to attack me i'm gonna holla back. 

    Thanks for the stumble - stumbled you back. 

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  13. Hi Pamela,

    Thanks for stopping by. BF is so natural and I cannot understand the controversy over it - it really is sad. 

    I certainly do accept the award - thank you so much!!

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  14. Hi Vicky,

    Thanks for the stumble - stumbled your site as well!

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  15. Thanks for the stumble. Stumbled your page as well. 

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  16. Lillys & LollipopsNovember 16, 2011 at 2:03 PM

    I breastfed for the first year. I loved breastfeeding. your right...its your kid, and your body...do whatever you want!!

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  17. You know, I think sometimes people walk away or avert their eyes because they think they're making you uncomfortable by looking at you while you nurse.  I noticed that some of my friends reacted that way when I nursed my daughter in front of them, so I started giving a disclaimer before nursing.  I'd say, "My apologies if I flash you... I'm so used to just whipping them out," so they knew that I was totally comfortable if they caught a glimpse of nipple or whatever.  But I think most of the time it's more about the fact that the other person feels like they don't quite know what to do with themselves while you nurse... not because they're uncomfortable with the nursing, but because they want to be respectful of your privacy. 

    What those who have never nursed don't understand is that we're totally comfortable having a conversation, maintaining eye contact, basically doing whatever we would normally be doing anyway, and that we cover ourselves out of respect for the other person, not because we're embarrassed of what we're doing. 

    Most of my friends got over their initial squeamishness when I just blatantly addressed the issue right from the beginning and announced that I would be whipping the boobs out, and explained that the friend was totally welcome to continue to chat with me while I did so. 

    Perhaps when your sister got you the towel she was trying to make YOU more comfortable, not realizing that you were completely comfortable to begin with.  I think it's a common misconception among people that nursing moms want you to look away.  Perhaps she just needs your permission to go ahead and look.  :-) 

    Anyway, I know I'm hogging up your comment space here!  LOL Following you now!  Have a great day, and a happy holiday season!

    Smiles, Jenn @Misadventures in Motherhood

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